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Greater Through the Storm

13 Aug

Maybe you’ve heard the saying “you’re either in a storm, approaching a storm, or coming out of a storm.”

No matter which point you’re at today, if Jesus is at the helm, great things are in store for you. When Jesus is the Lord of Your life, you are in the palm of your Creator’s hand. He is completely aware of every detail of your life and He wants to do great things through you, in trial and in triumph (I Peter 5:7, Psalm 55:2).

However, you must remember that His thoughts are not our thoughts, and His ways are higher than ours. His definition of greatness is not always the same as ours, and His path to greatness often includes storms, fires, and floods—troubles and obstacles that we’d prefer to skip over and land in heaven.

If, at this moment, you are saying, “How can anything great come out of this horrible experience? You have no clue of what I’m going through!,” you are absolutely correct. I don’t.

But even if I can’t truly understand what you’re going through, I do know that God does (Psalm 139).

During my stormy times as a single parent, struggling to raise two “we know more than you do!” children, I constantly found myself saying “Lord I can’t do this!”  Then, one day, the Lord moved upon my heart and changed my speech.  I began to say, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians  4:13)

My new confession didn’t stop the storms, but it lessened the strength of the waves. My faith and hope in the Lord strengthened and steadied my stance. I became overwhelmed by the Lord’s faithfulness instead of by the storms. (Mark 4:37–41)

What are you confessing during the storm? Your words have the power to strengthen the storm or to strengthen you (Proverbs 18:21).

The truth is, in your trial you have been given the power and the opportunity to abound in joy and peace as you hope in the Lord (Romans 15:13, Psalm 42:11, Psalm 71:14). Let the storm move you closer to Him, for He is your ever-present help in the time of trouble (Psalm 46). Trust that the Lord is using the storm to position you for the greater things He has in store for you (I Corinthians 2:9), and hold on (Luke 8:23)!

A New Look at Family

20 Jun
We now have more single parent headed households than ever. 
These households are in need of support from other family 
members to help carry the load. But how can the support gap
be filled when many families now live miles away from 
grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins? We can begin to 
fill the gap by taking a new look at "family".

Although many of us don't have the luxury of living near a 
host of relatives, we have been blessed with people who do, 
and have done for us, more than we can ask. Who are the 
people that have been there for you and for your children? 
Has your neighbor blessed you consistently in some way?  
Do you have friends that are there for you even before you 
can ask them for help? And what about your single 
parent friends whom you help from time to time? Have you 
thought about the fact that you might consider these 
people as a part of your family?

In Matthew 12:50, Jesus defined family in a unique way. 
He said that whoever does the will of His Father, the 
same is His brother, His sister, and His mother  
Jesus was not disowning His blood relatives (John 19:26). 
Instead, He also embraced those as family who are related 
to Him through a common bond. 

Perhaps it's time for you to re-define your family. 
Instead of being frustrated or down about the family 
that you don't have, begin to celebrate and value the 
family members that you do have. Psalm 68: 6 tells us 
that God places the solitary (lonely) in family. Where 
has he placed you? Today is a good day to take a new 
look at family.