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Greater Through the Storm

13 Aug

Maybe you’ve heard the saying “you’re either in a storm, approaching a storm, or coming out of a storm.”

No matter which point you’re at today, if Jesus is at the helm, great things are in store for you. When Jesus is the Lord of Your life, you are in the palm of your Creator’s hand. He is completely aware of every detail of your life and He wants to do great things through you, in trial and in triumph (I Peter 5:7, Psalm 55:2).

However, you must remember that His thoughts are not our thoughts, and His ways are higher than ours. His definition of greatness is not always the same as ours, and His path to greatness often includes storms, fires, and floods—troubles and obstacles that we’d prefer to skip over and land in heaven.

If, at this moment, you are saying, “How can anything great come out of this horrible experience? You have no clue of what I’m going through!,” you are absolutely correct. I don’t.

But even if I can’t truly understand what you’re going through, I do know that God does (Psalm 139).

During my stormy times as a single parent, struggling to raise two “we know more than you do!” children, I constantly found myself saying “Lord I can’t do this!”  Then, one day, the Lord moved upon my heart and changed my speech.  I began to say, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians  4:13)

My new confession didn’t stop the storms, but it lessened the strength of the waves. My faith and hope in the Lord strengthened and steadied my stance. I became overwhelmed by the Lord’s faithfulness instead of by the storms. (Mark 4:37–41)

What are you confessing during the storm? Your words have the power to strengthen the storm or to strengthen you (Proverbs 18:21).

The truth is, in your trial you have been given the power and the opportunity to abound in joy and peace as you hope in the Lord (Romans 15:13, Psalm 42:11, Psalm 71:14). Let the storm move you closer to Him, for He is your ever-present help in the time of trouble (Psalm 46). Trust that the Lord is using the storm to position you for the greater things He has in store for you (I Corinthians 2:9), and hold on (Luke 8:23)!

Believe or Trust Separate and Not Equal

3 Mar

Believe or Trust Separate and Not Equal.

He Loves you, He loves you not, He loves you!

18 Jan

I believe that single parenting is one of the most 
challenging responsibilities that life has to offer.
At times, this job has the potential to rip your heart 
into pieces. Talking to friends and relatives can relieve
some of the pressure. But you wonder, is there anyone that
really, really, understands your pain.

Looking back, I  recall speaking to a good friend, who 
also happened to be a single parent. The challenges of
loneliness, financial struggles, as well as my 
desire to discipline my children in ways that would help
them, all seemed to overtake me at times. It sounds 
foolish to me now, but at that time I said to my 
friend, "how can God really know what this feels like"?

And now I know that The Lord God himself is the only 
one who realty does understand every up and every down
of single parenting. Surely, other single 
parents may identify with your experiences and others 
my empathize with you. But only The Lord God Himself 
actually goes through every moment with you.

Just as I did, you might wonder - if The Lord is with me, 
why I'm even going through all of this in the first place. 
Well, honestly, many of my own troubles have been due to 
my own bad choices. But that doesn't prevent The Lord from 
being there for me, nor do your past mistakes prevent Him
from being there for you. 

I remember being so very distressed at one point until 
I literally cried out to The Lord. I asked Him why my 
life was going as it was. I was amazed by what I 
heard, although I didn't understand it that time. In 
response to my crying out I heard, 
"I HAVE LOVED YOU WITH AN EVERLASTING LOVE". 

I was shocked to find out months later that those very
words are actually written in the Bible (Jeremiah 31:3).
I must tell you that during that moment of my crying out,
although The Lord said that He loved me, the last thing 
that I felt was loved. I felt abandoned and desperate for
answers, and for help. 

As time passed, I began to see and really experience the
awesomeness of The Lord's love as He provided for us. As
I read the Bible and held on to the wisdom I found there. 
I began to understand the importance of correcting my 
children in love and I gained the strength I needed to
carry this out. I also learned that only The Lord Himself
can satisfy the loneliness that I felt. He did this by 
surrounding us with caring people with pure motives to 
help us. 

Yes, The Lord is with me. He's also only a prayer away
from you. And what is prayer but opening up your mouth
and heart to The Lord and humbly speaking the truth to 
Him. Yes, The Lord does love me and yes He does love you
and your children. Pray to Him. Sometimes His answers are
heard, and other times His answers come through other 
people, and most of the time His answers are found in 
the Bible. 

No matter what you've been through, the choices you've made,
or where you are right now, The Lord really does love you too,
and it's an everlasting love!