Tag Archives: love

It Ain’t What It Is!

4 Jul

Lately I’ve noticed the phrase, “it is what it is” being constantly used among people from all walks of life. Within that toxic phrase lies another statement that says, this situation will not and can not get better; therefore I accept it for what it is.

I can almost hear Jesus interrupting those conversations with the question “where is YOUR faith?” Jesus actually sacrificed His life on the cross, redeeming us from an “it is what it is lifestyle”.

“Now” our faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1). Yes, everyone experiences trying circumstances, but we who believe in Jesus don’t allow the circumstances to overtake us as the end all and be all. Our faith in our sovereign Lord always keeps us only a prayer away from divine intervention in every situation.

We have an enemy of our souls, who is also known as Satan. His intention is to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). One of his basic tactics simply involves helping us to focus upon what we see and accepting that as our final reality. We buy into his plan when we go with our natural senses, accepting things as they appear to be.

Jesus came that we might have life more abundantly (John 10:10). We access that abundant life as we trust in Jesus despite what we see.

Instead of saying “it’ is what it is” let’s keep in mind that Jesus Christ is Lord of all, and expect miracles. May we exercise our faith by praying and also doing our part to bring about positive change in our own situations and in the lives of others. “The just shall live by faith” (Hebrews 10:38). With faith, it ain’t what it is!

Further reading: II Corinthians 4:18, Romans 8:24, Hebrews 3:6


Who Are We?

5 Jul

Years ago, most people acknowledged that God existed and most
tried to live something akin to Godly lives. Those who didn't 
go to church at least respected those who did. History tells us 
that even our forefathers who wrote the constitution were 

As we know, our nation has strayed far away from the values 
of yesterday. Today, your truth is considered to be the truth. 
Moral absolutes that were once a part of our fabric have been
re-woven with our ways. So, as we proceeded to destroy 
Godly principles by committing such acts as taking
prayer out of schools and taking Christ out of Christmas, 
what did we expect?

We have nearly destroyed our foundation. One of 
Merrimack-Webster's definitions of the word foundation is 
"a basis (as a tenet, principle or axiom) upon which 
something stands or is supported. At one point, our nation 
stood upon the fact that God was Holy, true, and sovereign.
Basically, we had reverence for God and believed the Bible
was true.

The Bible tells us that our lives are hidden with Christ, in God. 
If we don't know who Christ is, how will we know who we are? 
Since Satan questioned Christ's identity, wouldn't he certainly 
dare to question ours? When Satan said to Jesus Christ, 
"If you be the Son of God", do this or that, Jesus (assured of
who He was) fought back with the word of God. 
(Matthew 4:3-4, Matthew 4:6-7, Luke 4:3-4,  Luke 4:9-12).

Since our foundation is not as it should be, we don't have the 
capacity as a nation, nor as a people to withstand the 
onslaught of Satan's identity questioning. In addition, many 
people have experienced painful events that are now coupled
with the loss of truth. This combination has erupted in
an assault on God's truth of who we are.

But if the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous 
do? (Psalm 11:3). We can start by remembering who God is, 
and who we are in Him. Study the Bible. God is
holy, and He is also love. What does love look like? It looks 
like God sending Jesus to die on the cross for the sins of him, 
her, you and me, and the world (John 3:16). Who are we? 
We are imitators of God! (Ephesians 5:1,2)

Chastening Love?

18 Apr

As parents, we love our children, and we recognize that love
also includes chastening or disciplining them as well. If you recall being a
child, at that time it was difficult to associate chastening with love. The two
didn’t seem to go together. I don’t know about you, but I was usually angry
after being chastened. Love was the farthest thought from my mind.

Because God loves His children, we will continue to experience times of
chastening/disciplining. But how are we responding today? Hopefully we
respond with repentance and gain understanding regarding God’s love and
mercy, as well as the wisdom that He imparts to us as we yield to His
correction and change.

Recently, I had an experience that testifies of the Lord’s love through
chastening. On a day off from work, I went out for lunch with some friends and
had a great time. Afterwards, my friends wanted to go shopping. I felt that I
should go home after lunch because there were many things that I needed to do.
Instead of going home as I knew I should, I went along with my friends.

Later that evening when I reached home, I found there was even more to do
than I thought. Since I was in urgent need of groceries, I made that my
priority. After eating a not a meal, but a bit of food, I dashed out to go food
shopping. There was still writing and research to do, bills to pay, laundry
waiting to be done, house cleaning to do, but those would have to wait for
another day. There was one last thing, I needed to do which should have been
first. I should have yielded to the instinct I had to go home, not

Physically, I overdid it! Soon, my head began to throb. Eventually
the throbbing took over my body. My heart rate increased to a scary point. The
pain in my head was intense. If only I had been wise and come home after lunch.
I wouldn’t have tasted a huge slice of infirmity. Not only was I ill that night,
I had to cancel my plan to attend an event the next day. I believe that I was
feeling God’s love, or shall I say His chastening.

Hebrews 12: 5-6 reminds us, “And you have forgotten the exhortation which
speaks to you as to sons; DESPISE NOT the chastening of the Lord, nor be
discouraged when you are rebuked by Him, for whom the Lord LOVES, He
chastens, and scourges EVERY son whom He receives.”

The scripture goes on in verse seven to say “IF you endure
chastening, God deals with you as with sons…,,”. Notice that word IF.
Enduring chastening correctly is a choice. The rewards of doing so are
awesome. Verse ten tells us that we profit by becoming partakers of God’s
holiness through chastening. Although we may not be joyful as we endure,
afterwards, we receive the peaceable fruit of righteousness.

Since we are pressing toward the mark and none of us have arrived yet,
we all will experience times of chastening/disciplining. When we feel
that nudge, that reminds us that we went the wrong way, causing our
lives to be temporarily painfully out of balance with the abundant lives
God has for us, don’t be discouraged. Remember that because
you belong to God, in His chastening love, you’re profiting.
You’re partaking of God’s holiness and the peaceable fruit of
righteousness. In fact, you’re beginning to look more like your
Heavenly Father.

He Loves you, He loves you not, He loves you!

18 Jan

I believe that single parenting is one of the most 
challenging responsibilities that life has to offer.
At times, this job has the potential to rip your heart 
into pieces. Talking to friends and relatives can relieve
some of the pressure. But you wonder, is there anyone that
really, really, understands your pain.

Looking back, I  recall speaking to a good friend, who 
also happened to be a single parent. The challenges of
loneliness, financial struggles, as well as my 
desire to discipline my children in ways that would help
them, all seemed to overtake me at times. It sounds 
foolish to me now, but at that time I said to my 
friend, "how can God really know what this feels like"?

And now I know that The Lord God himself is the only 
one who realty does understand every up and every down
of single parenting. Surely, other single 
parents may identify with your experiences and others 
my empathize with you. But only The Lord God Himself 
actually goes through every moment with you.

Just as I did, you might wonder - if The Lord is with me, 
why I'm even going through all of this in the first place. 
Well, honestly, many of my own troubles have been due to 
my own bad choices. But that doesn't prevent The Lord from 
being there for me, nor do your past mistakes prevent Him
from being there for you. 

I remember being so very distressed at one point until 
I literally cried out to The Lord. I asked Him why my 
life was going as it was. I was amazed by what I 
heard, although I didn't understand it that time. In 
response to my crying out I heard, 

I was shocked to find out months later that those very
words are actually written in the Bible (Jeremiah 31:3).
I must tell you that during that moment of my crying out,
although The Lord said that He loved me, the last thing 
that I felt was loved. I felt abandoned and desperate for
answers, and for help. 

As time passed, I began to see and really experience the
awesomeness of The Lord's love as He provided for us. As
I read the Bible and held on to the wisdom I found there. 
I began to understand the importance of correcting my 
children in love and I gained the strength I needed to
carry this out. I also learned that only The Lord Himself
can satisfy the loneliness that I felt. He did this by 
surrounding us with caring people with pure motives to 
help us. 

Yes, The Lord is with me. He's also only a prayer away
from you. And what is prayer but opening up your mouth
and heart to The Lord and humbly speaking the truth to 
Him. Yes, The Lord does love me and yes He does love you
and your children. Pray to Him. Sometimes His answers are
heard, and other times His answers come through other 
people, and most of the time His answers are found in 
the Bible. 

No matter what you've been through, the choices you've made,
or where you are right now, The Lord really does love you too,
and it's an everlasting love!